Let’s be real, we've all searched for:
Love without loss
Joy without pain
Good without bad
The attachement and aversion cycle begins from the desire for one thing, the avoidance of the other, and the continuous push/pull that follows.
When the 'bad' inevitability comes we try to cover up, distract, or justify the negative to ensure we scurt out of feeling uncomfortable. Then, we feel especially let down when the 'good' always feels just out of reach.
This just leaves us separated from ourselves, our bodies, and our worlds. So what’s the antidote to getting out of the cycle? Acceptance.
Acceptance of who you are
Acceptance of what you feel
Acceptance of your current reality
This is certainly easier said than done, but something we can start with by taking small steps.